The Four Qualities Mentioned in Hadith
In a famous narration recorded by Bukhari and Muslim, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) mentioned that a person is usually married for four reasons: wealth, lineage, beauty, and religious commitment—and advised believers to prioritize the religious commitment.
- Deen (Religious commitment & character)
- Akhlaq (Good character & moral integrity)
- Compatibility (Kafa'ah in practice & goals)
- Mutual attraction and comfort
The Significance of Character (Akhlaq)
Religious observance without good character can lead to marital strain. Look for traits such as patience, honesty, kindness toward family members, emotional maturity, and anger management.
Performing Istikhara (The Prayer of Guidance)
Once reasonable research (Istishara) and discussions are completed, performing Salatal-Istikhara allows prospective partners to ask Allah for guidance and blessing in their final decision.